Going to where your interest lies is a great way to find someone to date. Some of the best places to do this include parties, vacations and movies.
Even a simple thing like the grocery store can be a good place to meet someone. You see the same people every day, and it’s a nonthreatening environment.
Ask your friends for a date
If you have friends who know you well and are receptive to your interest, asking them for help setting you up on dates is a good idea. Just be sure to treat them with respect and do not pester them constantly about it. This will only make them resent you and less likely to want to help you.
One way to ask them is to suggest group dates with the two of you, such as dinner, drinks, a movie or a museum. This will not feel too pressured and will allow them to see you in a group environment and decide if they are interested in hanging out with you on a one-on-one basis. This is also a great way to get to know their personality.
Go on a blind date
Many blind dates are arranged by friends, which is a great way to find someone with whom you may have a lot in common. If you have a mutual friend who suggests that you go on a date, ask him or her to explain a little about the person, such as their career and interests.
Be careful about bringing up controversial topics, such as religion and politics. These are subjects that incite strong emotions and can lead to a heated discussion that may end the date.
If the arranged date goes well, it is a good idea to let your date know that you would like to meet again. If you don’t feel a connection, respectfully tell your date that you aren’t interested.
Ask a stranger for a date
It’s easy to feel nervous asking someone you like out, but remember that rejection is not a mark of your self-worth. In fact, it’s more of a sign that you should keep trying to find the person who’s right for you.
You can also try using humor to test the waters of a potential date. However, you should be careful not to overdo it. A subtle touch is enough to create interest and excitement.
If you ask someone out in front of a group of people or a common friend, they may feel put on the spot and pressured to say yes. Zuckerman suggests making the request in private and pulling them aside if necessary. It’s important to make it simple for them to decline if they aren’t interested.
Ask a friend to read your profile
When you meet someone online, it can be hard to tell if they’re being honest about themselves. Fake profiles will often look perfect to draw you in, with photos of them at resorts and exotic locations, and a bio that says they’re famous or rich. If you’re unsure, ask them to hop on a video call with you before meeting. They may be hesitant at first, but it’s important to have an accurate representation of your potential date.
It’s also helpful to see if they believe in gender equality, not just for the sake of being politically correct. This can be a big red flag if they don’t live that way in their everyday lives.